Man, I Feel Like a Woman

“I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never, ever let you forget you’re a man, ’cause I’m a woman.”

Remember that perfume commercial in the seventies—Enjoli, I think it was—showing a beautiful, confident woman coming home from her corporate job to cook dinner and romance her husband? It made us think we could have it all and do it all.

But can we? Have we got to a place where we excel at our careers, our relationships, and everything else in between? Or are we still falling short in one area or another?

Women are great entrepreneurs; we’re fabulous visionaries and can multitask like none other. But we often have to tap into our masculine qualities to earn notice and respect in our jobs.

Since “channeling the guy in us” helps us get so much done at work and even earns us accolades, we tend to stay in this mode when we get home so that we get everything done there as well. It worked great at our job, so it should work even better at home, right?

WRONG!

Our husbands pick up on this masculine energy. And, needless to say, they’re not turned on by it. They respect it and admire it, but they don’t want to snuggle with it. And if you’re honest with yourselves, ladies, you’ve noticed that when you take on that get-it-done attitude in your relationships, it just doesn’t seem to work. You and your hubby don’t see eye-to-eye, the passion fizzles, and pretty soon you’re just room mates. This leaves us feeling frustrated and unconnected.

So what’s a girl to do?

Switch off the masculine energy, or at least turn it way down, and switch on your feminine energy when you get home. Don’t focus on all the chores waiting for you and how quickly you can get them done when you get there. Instead, think about how you’re going to flirt with your husband while you cook dinner and do a load of laundry. Find ways to play together while you get the housework done.